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Refusal to allow the other parent to exercise parental rights.

A parent should never alienate a child from the other parent. The Act contains certain provisions that aim to prevent one parent from frustrating the exercise of responsibilities and rights by the other parent. Any parent who has care of a child and refuses to allow the other parent to exercise his/her responsibilities and rights Read More

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WHEN YOU CANNOT CO-PARENT

In a good-enough divorce, exes work through feelings of anger, betrayal and loss and arrive at a place of acceptance. Frustrations over the other parent’s values and choices are contained and pushed aside, making space for the Holy Grail of post-divorce life: effective co-parenting. Co-parenting is possible only when both exes support their children’s need Read More

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When Divorced Parents Do Not Communicate

Background The divorce was ordered 8 years ago. Both parents are co-holders of parental responsibilities and rights. Parent A had primary care/Residency of the children (11 and 8) and the standard visitation schedule was in place. Parent A refused to communicate with parent B and frustrated/refused contact as far as possible. Systematic bad-mouthing from parent Read More

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Smacking your child is officially illegal in SA now…. Your thoughts?

The Constitution, Children’s Act and our criminal law have always protected children against corporal punishment. What exactly is corporal punishment? Any punishment in which physical force is used and means to cause pain or discomfort – that, in short, is the definition by the UN Committee on the Rights of the Child. That means grabbing Read More

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Breaking Up Is Hard to Do: Separation Anxiety, Your Child and You

If you ever doubt whether you’re a super-important person, try walking away from your toddler when she appears engrossed in dot art markers. What seemed to be a carefree child will immediately morph into a howling, anxiety-filled kiddo wholly dependent on you for safety, companionship, and a general purpose in life. Honestly, this is often nice, especially if Read More

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7 Great co-parenting tips

“I saw the texts Dad sent you last night,” my eldest son said to me recently. He hung his head sadly. We had amended our parenting time schedule to accommodate some work travel for me, and I was planning to take my son to lunch on his birthday since I wouldn’t see him that day. Read More

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Stop Competing With Your Ex

It is possible to create a healthy coparenting relationship for the sake of your kids—but it may require some new thinking. Let’s explore some of the old ways of viewing things, along with the subtle mental shifts that can help you create a more effective coparenting relationship, starting with competition. In order to parent well together, you’ll need to Read More