The child’s development of an emotional attachment to a primary caregiver in the first six years of life is very important. A disturbance in this development can create problems in childhood, adolescence, and adult life. Behaviors fundamental to personal and interpersonal well-being are involved. Examples of these are: 1) the ability to create deep and Read More
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Fix Yourself First!
You can’t fix stupid and you can’t fix crazy, but you can fix yourself. 😉 You want to fix people because you love them, however, you cannot fix or change someone else. Your motives may be pure and it simply is not possible. Give it up. They are not broken. They are just not perfect. Read More
Can Single Moms have Balance? Your thoughts…..
Can working moms juggle career and family and still find time for themselves? Finding balance needn’t be a dream. It’s 6:30 pm when you finally arrive home, having rushed out the front door at the crack of dawn. You’ve had an exhausting day at the office but had to collect your son from rugby practice Read More
WHEN YOU CANNOT CO-PARENT
In a good-enough divorce, exes work through feelings of anger, betrayal and loss and arrive at a place of acceptance. Frustrations over the other parent’s values and choices are contained and pushed aside, making space for the Holy Grail of post-divorce life: effective co-parenting. Co-parenting is possible only when both exes support their children’s need Read More
When Divorced Parents Do Not Communicate
Background The divorce was ordered 8 years ago. Both parents are co-holders of parental responsibilities and rights. Parent A had primary care/Residency of the children (11 and 8) and the standard visitation schedule was in place. Parent A refused to communicate with parent B and frustrated/refused contact as far as possible. Systematic bad-mouthing from parent Read More
WHAT IS A PARENTING PLAN?
A parenting plan is a written document that outlines how parents will raise their child after separation or divorce. It is widely known that children need a routine. Living in two homes, this statement becomes even more important. The parenting plan will assist your child to cope with two homes and will also assist both Read More
Smacking your child is officially illegal in SA now…. Your thoughts?
The Constitution, Children’s Act and our criminal law have always protected children against corporal punishment. What exactly is corporal punishment? Any punishment in which physical force is used and means to cause pain or discomfort – that, in short, is the definition by the UN Committee on the Rights of the Child. That means grabbing Read More
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do: Separation Anxiety, Your Child and You
If you ever doubt whether you’re a super-important person, try walking away from your toddler when she appears engrossed in dot art markers. What seemed to be a carefree child will immediately morph into a howling, anxiety-filled kiddo wholly dependent on you for safety, companionship, and a general purpose in life. Honestly, this is often nice, especially if Read More